Becoming: attractively suitable, fitting, appropriate, good, lovely, right, modest

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We, who are women professing godliness, are a reflection of our beautiful Christ Who gave Himself for us. We are His. He is ours. We are bought with a price. What? Know ye not that your body is a temple?!

{See…Song of Solomon 2:16; First Timothy 2:9-10; First Corinthians 6:19-20}

“The way we dress IS a reflection of our heart. The way we dress can reflect wordliness or godliness.” ~Courtney @Women Living Well

Modesty is a timeless issue. It has been an issue from the beginning of time and it will be an increasingly important issue for followers of Jesus Christ until He returns. Today at Women Growing in Grace I am speaking a little bit about godly womanhood, our pure hearts and our appearance, offering practical advice that is a help in our own family. Modesty begins with a pure heart that wholly belongs to Jesus Christ. So, the first thing you and I can do is examine our hearts with a regular heart-check. Let’s ask ourselves some questions.

~Do I make excuses like these for how I dress?
….”I can wear what I want. It’s my business.”
…”They shouldn’t be looking anyway.”
…”I’m not a stumbling block. If they can’t handle it that’s their problem, not mine.”
…”This is what’s ‘in’.”
…”This is all you can find in the stores. I can’t find modest clothes that fit me.”

~Am I humbly walking with God or am I filled with pride?
~Do I want to be foolish or wise?
~Do I care most what pleases God or what pleases the flesh?
~Do I want others to notice my spirituality or my sexuality?
~Am I selfish and provocative in how I dress and conduct myself or am I careful to be discerning and pure in how I think and act? (Titus 2:3-5)

Maybe you’re not sure if you, in any way, ever dress or act immodestly. You can ask your husband, fiancee, or guy friends; ask your father, your uncle, or a trusted Christian man in your life. They often can tell you better than anyone. Or ask your mom, your grandma, your aunt, a Sunday School teacher, a mentor or your Christian girlfriends. And you can pray! God wants us to pray about everything! He wants to bless us!

I know it can be a huge challenge to go shopping and find appropriate clothes. Not only is it a task for myself, but we also have 8 daughters, currently between the ages of 7 and 15, to provide clothing for! One frustrating example is, the necklines are usually so low that we need a camisole or tank top under just. about. every. single. top. available. And even then, we still have to make sure the tank top is going to cover us up! It means we have to be persistent and creative sometimes, but, remember prayer works! God hears humble hearts who want to please Him! He is eager to help!

It can be easy for us to miss some things when we choose clothes. Here are some bold questions we can ask ourselves as we try on clothes…

~Am I showing any part of my breasts? Am I showing any cleavage?
~Could someone taller than me see down my top? When I lean over is this top going to keep me covered?
~Is this top see-through? Could I use some extra coverage like a camisole, or tank top?
~Is this top tight? Is it stretched so tight that it is pulling on the sides &/or the front?
~Is this blouse hard to button? Are the buttons pulling? Is the front gaping open in between the buttons?
~Are my bra straps or is my bra showing?
~Is this shirt so short that I’ll have to keep pulling it down to keep my waist covered?
~Is this top so low that I’ll need to constantly be pulling it up in the front to stay modest?
~Are these low rise pants going to show my back or bottom as I walk, or when I bend over? Ick!
~Do I need to wear a flowy tunic top or cute dress over these skinny jeans or leggings?
~Do these shorts come below the tips of my fingers when I stand up straight?
~Is this skirt or dress knee length? Does it cover my thighs all around, front and back? (Or you may even prefer that your knees not show at all.)

Dressing and behaving modestly protects our godly testimony and our fellowship with the Lord. A pure heart with modesty can protect our own marriage and even the relationships of others. Modesty shows our reverence for God, our regard for the souls and minds of men, single or married, younger and older and our desire to be a godly influence on the women and girls around us. Where possible, we want to build each other up spiritually. It is true that some people are going to choose evil regardless of our testimony, but my point is that we can always do our best to please The Lord, to be right with Him.

A godly woman can definitely dress nicely and modestly and at the same time look stunning and elegant. We CAN dress modestly and still be stylish, cute and pretty. It is worth the time it takes to make godly choices! God WILL bless our efforts! He will bless our pure, humble hearts!

What are some things that have helped you in your endeavor to be modest?

Growing in grace,
Melissa L. Scott

*Some passages for further study:
Proverbs 31
Psalm 19:8
Psalm 24:3-5
Psalm 119:9
Proverbs 29:23
Proverbs 30:12
Micah 6:8
Deuteronomy 6:5
Deuteronomy 7:6; 14:2
Matt 22:37; Mark 12:30; Luke 10:27
Galatians 5:22-26
Philippians 4:4-9
James 4:6-10
1 Timothy 4:12
11 Timothy 2:22
1 Peter 1:13-25
Titus 2:11-15
11 Chronicles 7:14-22

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What if…

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Dear Lord,

What if I did not have the ability to speak?

I imagine I would dream of all the sweet and wonderful things I would say!

I would long to tell my husband, my children, and everyone You put in my path

good things, encouraging things, important, meaningful things.

I would not think of wasting my words on lesser things.

Or what if I were only given a maximum number of words per day?!

I wouldn’t dare waste them away…the way I now so foolishly do

Since I never think of not having this liberty…

The liberty to speak whatever, whenever, however, and as much as I please.

O, Lord, may I be wise,

May I only use words to minister grace, bless, edify, encourage,

and admonish with great care and love.

Purify my heart to spill over with gratitude in everything,

So love and joy ~ You will supernaturally overflow from all of me.

Good Morning Girls ~ Ephesians Week 12 ~ Part II

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Friday, April 6, 2012
Good Morning on this final day of our GMG Ephesians book study! It’s been a blessed journey!

Today we close with Paul’s detailed request for prayer in Ephesians 6: 19-24. I see 7 requests on his prayer list that progressively become more specific.

May this be our prayer, as well.

1- I pray that God will give me *utterance; that He will give me a voice, an opportunity to speak.

*utterance: articulation; a stated or published expression; a voice; power, style or manner of speaking

2- I pray that I will open my mouth *boldly.

*boldly: fearlessly, bravely; confident, assured

3- I pray that I will be a witness and promote the Gospel of truth.

4- I pray that I will be a witness wherever I am speaking assuredly just as the Lord would have me speak.

5- I pray that I will be transparent and accountable to the family of God.

6- I pray that I, with my family or any other team I might minister alongside, will be a comfort and an encouragement to the family of God, our brothers and sisters in Christ.

7- I pray that I will be a blessing, bringing to the brethren who sincerely love Jesus…peace, God’s faithful love, and grace.

Walking with Jesus,

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*Good Morning Girls ~ Ephesians Week 12 ~ Part I

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Women in the Word ~ Ephesians Week 7

*Little note for my email subscribers: Please forgive the incomplete post you received this morning. I accidentally hit “publish” when I actually wanted to “update” it as a draft. Oops! Ok, so here’s the intended post… Thank you for your patience with my goof-ups. 🙂

I love the encouragement this morning from Good Morning Girls! Therefore, I can’t resist sharing an exerpt and invite you to read the entire post, if you haven’t already. Here is the latter portion from Whitney’s post that really spoke to me. Enjoy your precious time growing in God’s Word!

From GMG:

And I have to wonder when we struggle with the unity that Paul speaks of in Ephesians 4, if we’ve held on to some wrong thinking for far too long:

*Have we hidden behind our own preferences instead of agreeing on truth (remember that much of what we get “stuck” on isn’t even biblical thinking!)?

*Do we rely on the same convenient excuses year after year?

*If we were willing to bend just a little on the negotiables, could God use us more effectively?

*Could God be calling us to get out of our comfort zones in order to be an encouragement to someone in need?

*Are we plain just letting fear get in the way?

Unity in our relationships is not always easy. In fact, let’s be honest… sometimes it is the last thing we want to do! But Paul is calling us to maturity. To focus on what really matters. To remember that we are all on level ground at the foot of the cross.

”…I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” ~Ephesians 4:1-3

And here’s the amazing thing: when we finally let go of “our way” and submit to practicing unity the way God intended?

Freedom comes.

Is it time for you to let go of something that has hindered unity, so that you can start enjoying the ride?

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